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An Incomplete List Of Things Oprah Feels The Most Strongly About

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– 9/11

– Sidney Poitier

– Gratitude journals: “It just changed my consciousness about seeing the positive instead of the negative in life.”

The Color Purple: “I have never wanted anything in my life more than I wanted the role in The Color Purple. I have not wanted, and never want to be in a place, where I want anything that badly again. I felt my life could not go on if I did not get that role.”

– Groundbreaking couples therapy with Harville Hendrix: “That was life-changing for me. It changed the way I operated in all of my relationships. Absolutely. In all of my relationships. In my personal relationship with Stedman, my relationship changed.”

– Mothers Who Kill Their Children: “I don’t know anything worse than killing your own child.”

– Dr. Phil: “I’ve had several ‘Aha’ moments over the years. Memorable, big ones. A couple big ones came from Phil.”
“I think that could be one of the most important things you said.”
“Mercy, that is a good statement!”
“That’s good, Phil.”

A Daughter’s murder, a mother’s pain: “That was bing bing, lightbulb, goosebump, at the same time. It was one of the great moments.”

Maya Angelou: “Maya has been one of my greatest personal teachers….Reading [her] as a teenage girl validated my own story….She became an instant role model for me.”

– Life lessons: “I think the best lesson I ever learned; when people ask me, what is the thing you’ve learned the most out of life, is a lesson — you know which one it is? You’re not in it.

“The number one defining lesson from 21 years of interviewing people for me has been to understand that every single person…is looking to see, did you hear me? Do you see me? Do you really see me? Does what I’m saying matter to you? And that is the common denominator of the human experience. That is the great lesson I’ve learned in all these years. Every person matters.”

Source: Disks 2-6 of The Oprah Winfrey Show 20th Anniversary Collection

The Sound Of Silence

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Check This

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For the past three days, besides writing this, which people seemed to like, I’ve been working on a radio piece for WBEZ. It aired on 848 this morning, but if you missed it, you can listen to/read it online. On some level, this is a story I’ve wanted to tell for a long time. Though I doubt this will be the last time I will write about September 11th, I do feel that after exhausting the topic this week, I’ll be putting it aside for now. Big thanks to those four individuals who took the time to talk to me about their feelings and experiences; there was endless tape we could have used, and cutting it down was difficult for me. As my boss Justin Kaufmann, who produced the piece, says, it comes down to “killing babies.” This sounds incredibly harsh, but is totally how it feels when people have said great, beautiful things and there’s just not enough time. Hopefully what’s in there is a good enough portrait of people and place.

Young New Yorkers living in Chicago reflect on bin Laden’s death [WBEZ]

Never Forget

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Ten years ago, I went to sleep after the longest day of my relatively young life. I had no idea what the coming months would bring; all I knew was that I wasn’t in my bed, I had been yanked from school early that morning, was very very tired and yet very awake. As the days would go on, there would be more and more anger from Americans, because life as they had known it had been torn apart.

People were shocked and sad, and then they became angry. Their anger grew as they watched extremists around the world celebrate the death of a small portion of America who had done nothing to set themselves up for attack, save live in the country they lived in. And this angered us more; how disgusting, how horrible were these people, for celebrating our loss!

This is what I think of now, as I watch crowds of Americans celebrate in front of the White House after Osama Bin Laden’s death. Wolf Blitzer of CNN has just told me that he’s sure there will be celebrations around the country, especially in New York and Pennsylvania. Because that’s the way to handle this — classily singing The Star-Spangled banner to celebrate death.

In his amazingly eloquent speech, President Obama told us to think back to the unity we felt as a nation after 9/11, an obvious request to end the incredibly partisan political situation he’s found himself a part of this term. But in this global economy, global culture, global social media, global whatever, where did global unity go?

Osama Bin Laden was a person. We don’t have to pretend to be sad, but we don’t have to celebrate. It’s crass, and entirely below us, and celebrating his death shows how little we respect and understand what his death means.

After the 9/11 attacks, it was assumed that everyone in the country wanted justice in the form of death. But I remember seeing none of this sentiment come from my friends and family, who lived blocks from the where the Trade Towers stood. They wanted nothing but peace, and felt nothing more than sadness and confusion.

I’m sure this celebration will only worsen as the days go on, and become bogged down with legitimate questions about the significance of this event on every level. But as I sit here this night, watching and reading and listening to others make assumptions about how happy everyone around the world is right now, all I can do is think back to that girl ten years ago. She sat in front of her television too, watching a world cry out for blood, when all she felt was a feeling she couldn’t put a name on. It took years to realize that it was a cool breeze whisking away anything she’d ever thought she knew. And all she wondered was how anyone could want to kill anyone else, and as stupid as it sounded even to herself, why couldn’t we all just get along?

Too Soon

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“Hip hop star Kanye West last night called Lindsay Lohan’s Ungaro collection for s/s 2010, the ‘9/11 for celebrities doing fashion. After that, I thought, “Well I can’t do a line now”.'”

Kanye West Talks Fashion [Elle]

The 5 Stages of Grief Do Not Include This Ad

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I know everyone has their own way of remembering, but some ways are wrong.

French newspaper the latest to badly exploit 9/11. [Copyranter]

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